Today we have part 2 of Dee’s & Sam’s 2 birth stories. They’ll share about an even more premature birth of their second daughter, Luna. Due to the identification of an intra-uterine hemorrhage in late pregnancy, the decision is made to induce several weeks before the due date. Hear Dee share how surprised she was that she was able to cope with her induced labor without requesting the epidural, which was something she never thought she’d be able to do. She’ll also share how the use of a squatting bar helped her in the pushing stage and will detail the amazing sense of euphoria she had when her daughter was born. Then Dee & Sam will reflect on Luna’s 2-week stay in the NICU as well as provide some tips on staying flexible in labor and birth. Finally, they’ll discuss the special friendship they made in birth class and how having the support of friends has been essential, particularly during the NICU stay when they had another little one at home.
Read moreBirth Matters Podcast, Ep 21 - Pre-term labor during girlfriend time while Dad's Away (Part 1)
For today's and next week’s episodes, we have another 2-parter for you as Dee & Sam share their two daughters’ preemie birth stories. You’ll hear these two soulful parents share some pretty incredible details about their two hospital births. In this episode, labor begins prematurely, several weeks before the due time, and soon after one of the biggest snowstorms New York has seen in many years. I might add it happens all while Dee’s husband, Sam, is having fun down in Austin for South by Southwest with his brother, and he makes it back in the nick of time. Hear how Dee’s best friend comes up to visit while Sam’s away thinking they’ll get some girl time, but little did they know her girlfriend would be a labor support partner until Sam could get on the next flight to return! Due to the amount of bleeding she had, they ended up admitting her earlier than they normally would. Dee’s water breaks right around the time that Sam arrives from the airport, and her contractions immediately get much stronger, which leads her to opt for the epidural, which she always thought she would opt for. Hear how she details the ways in which having a doula made a huge difference in how her labor went, especially in light of having so much back labor due to the baby not quite being in an optimal position. She also describes how quickly the pushing stage went for her, and Sam will give a few of his reflections on being present for the birth.
Read more10 Ways to Use Mindfulness Through Labor and Delivery
The experience of bringing life into this world is unlike any other. It's an act of creation — it brings you as close to your understanding of divinity as you're likely to experience. However, it's also messy and intense.
Mindfulness benefits you throughout the process of labor in many ways. It helps you remain present to experience every magical moment. It also assists you to minimize the pain.
1. Start Practicing Early
Any experience is more frightening when you don't know what to expect. Take advantage of labor and childbirth preparation classes, especially if this is your first child. However, anyone can benefit — you'll meet new friends who are also looking forward to their bundles of joy. Not all childbirth classes are alike, so you’ll want to learn about the various different methods or approaches & other considerations so you can choose the one that’s best for you.
The more you know about what to expect, the better. Read as many books or listen to as many podcasts on the process as you can. Use caution, though, when researching online. You don't want to scare yourself into catastrophic thinking — remember, women have given birth since the dawn of life.
2. Make Deep Breathing a Habit
A funny thing happens when you make something a habit. Whenever you experience a cue that initiates the behavior, you engage in it, hoping to reap the reward. This action occurs without conscious thought. Think about the person at the office who heads for the smoker's bench whenever politics grow heated, for instance.
Habits can be positive as well as negative — deep breathing, for example, is uplifting and relaxing at once. Starting now, practice taking slow, deep breaths whenever you feel stressed. As your pregnancy advances, this will decrease the flow of adrenaline in your body — including the amount that reaches the baby. This lowered hormonal level helps your infant develop self-soothing behaviors and a sanguine temperament. The reduced adrenaline also helps you to not only go into labor more readily when the time is right, but also helps labor itself to progress in a healthy, efficient way.
3. Engage in Meditation Throughout Pregnancy
Did you know your body produces a natural painkiller that is 100 times stronger than any medication? It does. These chemicals are called endorphins, and you release them when you exercise — and when you meditate. What's better yet is that these substances build up in the body. You could try the Expectful meditation app or Mindful Birthing, a set of recorded, guided meditations specifically for birth prep*. This preparation means if you practice while you're expecting, you'll go into the delivery room full of endorphins, which will allow you to enjoy the experience more fully with far less pain.
4. Pretend You're Elsa and Let It Go
If you've given birth before, you might have a set of expectations. After X number of hours, you should dilate X number of inches, etc. However, like every baby is unique, so is every childbirth. Let go of your expectations and focus on the here and now. You'll stress yourself out by trying to stick to a timetable — when your baby is ready, they'll be here.
5. Lean on Your Helpers
Who do you have in the delivery room with you? Hopefully, you have your closest comrades to offer encouragement. Remember, you control who you allow in the delivery room with you. Only invite people who enrich the experience, and lean on them once they are there. Have your significant other run and get coffee. Let your mom, friend or doula wipe your brow with a damp rag.
6. Pack a Bag in Advance
Do you wear contact lenses? You would think hospitals have lens solution and cases so you can take them out. However, they won't have a spare pair of glasses. It's easier to manage pain when you know you have everything you need and want. Pack a go-bag in advance containing necessary prescriptions essentials and comfort items, like your favorite pillow or stuffed animal.
7. Get Your Body Ready, Too
If you want to make your delivery easier, get in shape before you deliver. You do want to avoid contact sports and intensely jarring activities. However, unless your doctor advises against it, exercising during pregnancy makes birth less painful. Working out while you're expecting can also help stave off gestational diabetes. When you feel better, you can enjoy the moment more.
8. Set a Relaxing Scene
Many hospitals today try to make new mothers as comfortable as possible. However, you can ask them to make conditions more favorable for you to get into a meditative state. Ask the nurse to dim the lights. After all, you might be there for hours — overhead fluorescents can provoke a headache. If possible, listen to some soothing spa music. You don't want to distract yourself with the television unless the pain gets unbearable, but do make your environment pleasant. You might look into home delivery with a midwife as a more relaxing option.
9. Focus on More Than the Pain
Pay as much attention to the emotions coursing through you as you do labor pains. You probably feel excited, and maybe a bit nervous. You might even feel overwhelmed or fearful at times. Allow yourself to experience these feelings without judging them — remember, emotions are neither positive nor negative. They merely are.
10. Give Thanks for Your Blessings
Finally, you've created a miracle. You deserve to revel in the majesty of the experience. Savor the first moment you hold your baby in your arms. Enjoy your first feeding, even if it feels uncomfortable. You'll never get another chance to live these initial moments.
Get Through Labor With with Mindfulness
You want to remember every precious first moment with your child. Practice mindfulness throughout your pregnancy and delivery, and you'll experience less pain and more joy.
Jennifer Landis is a writer and the blogger behind Mindfulness Mama where she write about mom life, yoga, and healthy living. After giving birth to two babies naturally and medicated, she believes birth is a beautiful, personal experience best prepared for by educating yourself. Find more from Jennifer on Twitter @JenniferELandis.
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Birth Matters Podcast, Ep 20 - Unmedicated hospital birth after 3rd Tri Move to Georgia
Meredith & Thomas share their story of an uncomplicated, unmedicated vaginal birth in Atlanta, Georgia. Hear these 5-week old parents give tips for moving during pregnancy as they describe their last-minute, third trimester move from Brooklyn to Atlanta, moving in with Meredith’s parents. You’ll hear the ways in which they believe they received care that was more aligned with their preferences than they might have received in New York. They’ll also share about early breastfeeding, including how the laid-back breastfeeding position (detailed in the Natural Breastfeeding online course she’ll refer to) was so much less painful and easier than other positions, how getting a bit overzealous with pumping in the early days backfired, and how receiving expert support from a lactation consultant made a difference for the better. Finally, they’ll describe how they tag-teamed the baby responsibilities in the first few weeks and briefly discuss soothing techniques that have worked for their daughter.
Read moreBirth Matters Podcast, Ep 19 - NYC Model & Wellness Coach's Unmedicated Birth in Maryland
NYC fashion model & wellness coach Lauren Deckert shares her son’s birth story, in which she chose to leave New York to give birth in her hometown in Maryland in the hospital where she was born. She’ll share details about this and other strategies that helped her to have the unmedicated vaginal birth that she had hoped for.
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